tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154066149083198636.post7483778276065592710..comments2019-06-07T12:00:23.797-07:00Comments on Wildflowers~: Would You Do It Again?Emily Pearsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05575512268402382364noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154066149083198636.post-52554588040649930992009-01-17T17:05:00.000-08:002009-01-17T17:05:00.000-08:00I am serious about wanting to be of service to any...I am serious about wanting to be of service to any women out there who might want to talk to another gay man besides the guy they are dating/deciding if they want to marry. I think if a woman is going to willingly enter this situation she should definitely have all the information she can. I wish people wouldn't put themselves through this, but everyone has their own path I guess, right? Its hard but we are all here to learn. Anyway, thank you again. You are awesome.CLARK JOHNSENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893018646857280001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154066149083198636.post-29891917104651476912009-01-12T15:16:00.000-08:002009-01-12T15:16:00.000-08:00Clark:And I SO appreciate your comment. More than ...Clark:<BR/><BR/>And I SO appreciate your comment. More than you know. Amen Brother! I agree with everything you said and must add that it also wreaks havoc, in different ways, on a gay man to be married to a woman. It hurts both tremendously. <BR/><BR/>I am so thrilled that these women can meet wonderful and responsible and loving gay men like you. <BR/><BR/>THANK YOU.Emily Pearsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05575512268402382364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154066149083198636.post-57405292291689923962009-01-12T11:13:00.000-08:002009-01-12T11:13:00.000-08:00I SO appreciate what you are doing on this website...I SO appreciate what you are doing on this website. I am a gay mormon. I seriously dated a woman a few years back and even though she felt ready to go forward with our relationship I had to accept the fact that she didn't really understand what she was getting into. I really do think it wreaks havoc on a woman to be married to a gay man. No matter how hard he tries, the relationship is always going to revolve around him, which I think is very demeaning to a woman's full potential. <BR/><BR/>I talked to a great friend of mine who was married to a gay man in the church. About a year ago they divorced after 3.5 years of marriage. They didn't have any assets or children, but the divorce was still very difficult for both of them. But I have seen them both thrive now free of the burden of being, as Carol Lynn Pearson puts it, "star crossed lovers". I know how much these 2 friends loved one another, but the relationship was extremely destructive. Particularly to her. She told me something interesting when I spoke to her the other day.. she said that she felt so trapped and so often unhappy in the relationship, but she also knew that if she divorced him he would probably seek relationships with men. She chose to believe the fact that she would just have to live a life of unhappiness in order to save him from losing his soul to homosexuality. She really believed what the church told her about being gay-- that it is a life filled with sin and misery and often ends in disease and suicide. How could a woman who loves a man so much consign him to that???<BR/><BR/>Here is what I believe. No one can save anyone else. It is not up to a woman to keep a man out of the gay lifestyle. Firstly because she shouldn't sacrifice her happiness for ANYONE or ANYTHING. She deserves a full and happy life married to someone that can love and respect and share with her the same way she can with him. Secondly, women need to realize that choice and accountability go further than they have been taught. If a man decides to go off and engage in destructive behavior, harming himself and putting himself at risk, of course he will not be happy. But if he decides to find a loving partner and build a home with him, they CAN be very happy and have (I believe) the Lord's blessing. <BR/><BR/>We gay mormons do not need women to sacrifice their lives to save us. God has a plan for us and has laid out the pathway for us to be in happy loving relationships and even have families.<BR/><BR/>I am an advocate for women in the church standing up for their right to be happy and fulfilled. The idea that my good friend felt she had to lead an unhappy life to save her husband makes me so sad I feel sick. <BR/><BR/>If there is anything I can ever do to help any women to more fully understand the situation they are getting themselves into by marrying confused and scared gay men, please don't hesitate to contact me. <BR/><BR/>I also have youtube videos that talk about my experiences. Just search under my name. <BR/><BR/>God bless all you wonderful women. I love you with all my heart and will do whatever I can to help.CLARK JOHNSENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893018646857280001noreply@blogger.com